Trying to Follow DB & DR (4)

[Miman2]

Still in no contact with the STBX, however things are going really well for me.

Continuing to go to CoDA, IC, GALing hard every weekend and every week day I can spare. Tuesday still remains my one day out of the week that I don't have anything really planned but it gives me a day to do the things I probably need to do (grocery shop, various errands, etc.)

The final developments that occurred 2 weeks ago and since then have spoken volumes about the future of the relationship between me and the STBX. Since then she's unfriended me on FB and unlisted me as her H, which does sting a little but it hasn't stopped me from enjoying life.

I have started seeing someone and I know it's REALLY early to be doing so. We're remaining friends, taking things slow, enjoying each other's company and having lots of discussions about what having a healthy relationship means to each of us. Turns out that while she wasn't married she had a very similar experience to me when she got out of her last relationship.

I've discussed her with my IC and he mentioned that the important reason not to get into new relationships right away was because then people don't have enough time to reflect on things that went wrong in the previous relationship and how to go about fixing them.

I think that, with CoDA and the relationship/communication books I've read, I'm on a good trajectory. Sure, I will mess up something along the way but it's being able to recognize it, owning it, and fixing it that is probably the most important thing I've picked up along my journey. I know I am not perfect, just perfectly human.