Needing some support

[Clairee]

I'm sorry you're here ESN. But you're definitely in a good place for support. The people on these forums are the most caring & supportive people you'll ever meet. Detaching is hard, but not impossible. For me, it's a conscious choice I make every day. Every day I have to tell myself not to text or call. Not to initiate. When H calls or texts, I have to remind myself to stay focused, be friendly like a neighbor but not over sharing. I don't answer every call or respond to every text. After all, I'm a busy woman! Focus on you & your daughter. Time is a gift, use it to better yourself, find your own happiness & GAL!

I do have to ask why haven't you gone to the courts about the child support? He is the father & needs to help financially care for his child. If you have a child support agreement, enforce it. If you don't have an agreement, get one. You can talk to child services or the legal aid office. Your daughter shouldn't suffer because of his selfishness. And don't stress over his custody threats. In my opinion, until he does something, they are just words meant to scare & intimidate you. Be strong & be the best mom you can be. He would have to prove a lot to a court to take her from you & he would have to admit not paying support which isn't going to be in his favor. He knows how to scare you & push your buttons. Don't play his game.

Good luck sweetie. You have lots of support here so keep posting.