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Since there really is no dialog between W & I about anything right now aside from some kid things, I feel like I need to write what my intentions are and perhaps some things that we need to work out to move forward.

I have written this but have not sent it. I think it addresses some of the immediate concerns that I have.

If anyone is around today, I would love some input.

I just would like to move this along.

Thanks

W,
We haven't spoken in a while and you said that you felt you couldn't ask me questions. Go ahead and ask - I will answer.

But in the mean time, we need to figure out what bills need to be paid. I am not saying that I will not pay my portion.

-I will transfer money into the common account that will pay for my portion of the house, kids, food, and my direct bills. I will need to see these bills, so I know how much to transfer (so this will not cover other expenses - your entertainment, dates, hourly hotels, birth control pills..... etc.). You may deny that I have contributed to these things, but since you pay for them from our common account I have contributed to your lifestyle. I am through with this.

-We will need to share information about money that is spent on common things (house, kids, food, cars, etc) so we can balance this.

-You do not need to buy anything solely for me, I will take care of these things.

-I will continue to be cordial as I have been during this process, but I do not think it is a good idea to go out together as a family. Perhaps we can schedule times with the kids.

-We need to talk about things that need to get done to the house before we sell it. I do not want every item to fall on me, so I would ask for a fair amount of work from you too.

Believe me when I say that this is not what I wanted our lives to look like and this is not easy for me.

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