You guys are absolutely unbelievable. What the hell am I doing on page 2? I should be consigned to the dungeons of inactive posts by now...Thank you all for your support. Especially MAL, Z, WW, Charles, Dagney(Hey, we are 1-0!)...so many others. I don't know what to say.
I've moved, settled in..kids are all back in school. I'm working like a madman at this new job...W doesn't like that, but we are trying to work through it....YS is in school, D is in school...both like 15 hours a way in Texas...OS is still in Iraq but doing OK. He calls every once in a while.
I miss the kids something awful. YS's jokes, D's sarcasm...OS's blatant honesty...but W and are I trying to work this out and sometimes I think we've almost got it, but she's still pretty skittish(sp?). She gets mad, but not as mad as she did 3 years ago...and really not as mad as she did a year ago...Sometimes it's almost normal.
I get frustrated too. Believe me, I'm no saint in all of this. I continually push for resolution. But, of course, that is too easy. Some little, [censored]-head of a demon has it in for me. He enjoys this limbo crap way too much to just let it get better. W still rides the fence 50% of the time...gets nasty...tells me I get nasty...but is still here. Don't ask me, I can't figure it out.
In the meantime, I'm trying to forget all the crap that has happened. We have a nice house here and the neighborhood is great. The kids are doing great...
D's ankle is better and she's dating all kinds of guys now. YS is still the same. Has his "Ho's" as D calls them hanging around up at school. They are both really doing well. D wasn't down at A&M a week before she was having a serious relationship...it lasted all of 4 days before she called me crying...They broke up. She told me that she thinks "all he wanted was a piece of a__!!!" I cut her off and said "Don't tell your Dad stuff like that!"...I could have gone my whole life without hearing those words out of my daughter's mouth....
Anyway, She's been through two other guys since then. Always thinks they are the ONE....Ahhhh, to be 21 again...
I haven't been lurking or anything for a long time. I will try to catch up but doubt I'll be consistent. Too much on my plate. I wish I could tell you everything is great, but it's still hanging in the balance. I'm kind of surprised everyday when I get home and W is still here.
On the plus side, YS talked me out of my truck for school, so I bought this little german convertible that I drive everyday. So, other than getting an earful from W, I'm having a lot of fun with the car. The speedometer goes to 150..I've only had the nerve to go to 105, but I've only had it a week.....
Seriously, I know this post is disjointed, but I've had more than a few drinks...you know how that goes. W is visiting her sister, I've got to go to work tomorrow, and just thought I'd pop in and check the bb out.
Thanks everyone for your thoughts. I'll try to get better. In the meantime, y'all be good.
It's great to get an update from you. We've missed you.
Be careful with the working stuff. If I remember correctly, that is one of the things that bothered your W over the years, and it helped create the distance between the two of you and added to her anger.
Now that the kids aren't around, she doesn't have as many things to keep her occupied.
Just curious, is your W working again?
Are you guys spending time together outside of home?
I know you've never really grasped the 5LL that Ellie mentioned, but give it another try. Maybe you'll find it more useful this time around.
Now tell me again??? Why were you posting so late last night? LOL. Was Jack around?
Again, it was great to get an update! A wonderful surprise first thing this morning!
Keep in touch now, ya hear?
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Good to hear from you. I can't imagine living so far from the kids, though some days it sounds like heaven. We could have a year this year, beat BC, build up some confidence, you never know. However we are taking s7 to teh Iowa game, he is an Iowa fan, I think just to tick us off, but he claims it is because he was born there (like he remembers)!
I agree with MAL on the work stuff, that had a huge impact on our breakdown. I think I'm more understanding of H's demands (also busier myself), but he is making more of an effort to either call and check in or at least email me and that helps me a lot. Don't feel quite as disconnected that way. And it is nice, we don't really have R talks anymore, didn't realize how stressful those things could be!
Okay?? 