Matt hit it on the head. You haven't changed. You have simply decided that you want to. So there's nothing to show. I'm approaching 1 year into my sitch, and am still realizing how many things I still do from my M. You can't just make a diagnosis, come to a logical conclusion, and then decide that's who you are now. That's not how change works. I'm proud of you for WANTING to change...but don't confuse willingness with achievement.
Another reason to stay dim is because it will really mess up your detachment. Trust me, it's TOO easy to start playing a game of trying to get her to see a 'new you' which doesn't exist yet. Plus, it can come across that everything you're doing is an act, which is exactly what she's expecting anyway.
Really let her go and work on yourself for a while. She may get curious someday. She may not. But worry more about the changing part than the showing her part.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
