BW- my advice would be DO NOT tell him how you know. Only bad can come of it.
If you tell him what you found, he'll make elaborate excuses. Jim and Jane were over, the married couple, Jane was tired and asked if she could take a nap, yadda yadda.
So no confessions, and now he knows exactly what you do and don't know. Because trust me, 110% of all cheaters lie. Why would you expect someone that would cheat on their partner to respect honesty? It's ALL about avoiding reality and consequences. You're dealing with an overgrown 6 year old.
Instead, just tell him you know everything and refuse to tell him what everything is, or how you know. But tell him if he wants to admit it and admit EVERYTHING you'll speak to him, but if he won't then you have nothing further to speak about.
I think the question is what next steps are you planning when he denies everything?
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
