I guess I will have to respectfully disagree on some aspects
As I'm sure you can gather from my posts I am not about being walked all over. When I said get along for the kids I mean be able to exchange the kids pleasantly and hopefully be mature adults. If you've read my previous posts I also said I did not think they should be doing things as a family. That's the repercussion the W or H has to deal with by choosing an A. Others argue to allow the other partner see what they're missing. I guess it could go either way.
At the end of the day we are all adults and hopefully those here can utilize all that's offered here and formulate their own approach. I think it's important for people to realize that there isn't one thing that will make or break the relationship.