Fogg - that makes sense and that's the problem I seem to be having. I get smacked on the head with 2x4's because people on here will tell me (rightfully so) that she doesn't give a rat's ass about me right now and will be selfish and do things for her. She may never come back and her actions AND words are showing that to be more true.

I am separated and for the first time in years I am starting to feel happy with myself, by myself and away from ww. There are still triggers, setbacks and things I'm working on.

However (and this is what I was afraid of 2-3 months ago), the longer I am away, GAL and working on me, the more I wonder how long I should hold on for. What's the point and is the ROI I would potentially have with her AND potential risk greater than what I may find moving on and being by myself until I'm ready for that?

At this point I don't know, but am starting to question it more every day. Interestingly enough - the thought of being divorced from her no longer feels life ending. It feels like I will be more than ok, no matter what happens.

Progress.


M-33
W-33
S-11, S-8
M-11, T-14
BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18
I moved out 5/23