By the way, a friend of W and me today commented how "strong" I am with handling all this - after she was, of course, horrified to hear what's going on. Strong is not how I feel most of the time. But if I'm coming off as strong, I credit DB, and the support and insight I find in this group every day. Thanks to all of you.
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19