Well at least you had man time with S. That's worth a lot and he'll appreciate that in the future. Yeah, your W is missing. When she returns, you've got to act like you don't care - that'll prove a point to her. Especially if S lays it on thick about what a good time you've had.
NDY,
It's good that you are posting as much as possible. I really agree with Huddy's advice above. Good stuff!
Tomorrow is my 14th Wedding Anniversary, I have only seen my WAW one time in the 7 months since she walked out and filed for D--in court in Feb and she acted like I didn't exist. Once I truly stopped persuing her, GAL and detached emotionally, I started feeling much better. Did you catch her text to me last week and my "team text" reply? I think it's on page 5 of my current thread. You may want to read it. She finally seems to be re-thinking thngs -- maybe. But, it's a small baby step.
Hang in there thru these tough times, buddy. I have faith in you that you'll do the right things. Keep a PMA, please.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Yes, I follow your thread although I don't post much. You seem to have a lot of people at your back so I don't want to clutter your thread.
Funny thing is this, I think I get how this is supposed to work. But my problem is that what I read here is when there is an active A on the go its to pull back and be dim(or dark). So I do that and it makes the WW reactions much worse. If I lighten up she responds positively and wants to engage. But is that me being friend zoned or should I keep on that track?
You see, PMA is ok. I GAL. Fitter now than ever. Spend A LOT of time with S9 (something to this day she maintains I didn't do and resents me for that. It's not true but hey). So what to do? DR says do something different but on here they say with a WW the rules are not applicable. Yet I think in my case they very well could be.
So I'm confused. I know we all are and need to find that solution. When I read sandi2's threads on the WW that's my W. To a tee. I try to follow her advice when I read it but alas, no movement.
I only have so much patience. I don't want a D. I want my family but I feel stuck. Although I'm getting on with life how do you move forward in this situation? It just doesn't feel like a life. Know what I mean?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yes, I know what you mean. You want to go forward, but you come up against a wall. You want to move on, but you can't in case there is some movement. It's a rock and a hard place. At what point do you just say 'forget it, I'm going alone'?
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Yes, I know what you mean. You want to go forward, but you come up against a wall. You want to move on, but you can't in case there is some movement. It's a rock and a hard place. At what point do you just say 'forget it, I'm going alone'?
That's a hard question. That's the one I'm looking for advice on. I believe I'm starting to run out of patience. People on here have been encouraging and I thank them for that but there comes a point where enough is enough.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
WW has just offered to make me food. That will be the first time in months, literally months she has done this or even anything remotely like this. I have of course gracefully accepted. Well, it would be a bit stupid to turn down a home cooked meal.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Ha ha. You are the second person to tell me that today.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Cheers mate. No expectations though, right? I'm just happy to have a meal I didn't cook for myself. And it's chilli. Yum. I do like her chilli.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
