Ok I think I did pretty good this weekend thanks to all the support here. H came over yesterday and we took walk to park with S and dog on the way there we were talking about appreciation and my sister and H made the comment "ha I know how it feels to be unappreciated and I said I always appreciate what you do for me and H said you do now but you didn't for 10 years. Instead of arguing I just let it go and just said I appreciate what you do and all your help. That's all that was said.
Now you are probably thinking big deal but this is where I would normally launch in to asking about the R but I didn't. I let conversation end and changed topic.
something else I learned while listening to him was the fact that he was deleting my text and not reading them back when I was clingy and desperate. I said, "well I quit that a couple months ago." and he agreed. So FYI don't do that people. Good advice that I got from 25yrs don't talk about R.
Overall we had a pretty good day. H and I went for 45 minute motorcycle ride and then he went back to his house.
Again I am moving forward without any expectations even though yesterday he tug my hair etc (which may not seem like anything but its the most interaction he has shown me in months)
Still trying to get a handle on GAL cuz I just need to for myself. Thanks again for all the great ideas.
I sent shopping and bought a couple of new outfits for yoga and next weekend I am going to a concert with my sister.
