I should have known it was wrong step to send text about A. I had doubts, but sent it anyway. H is adamant that there is no A going on, that I should have asked him if I had concerns, and that he has no reason to lie, when will I start trusting him, etc. He also said that he knew even before I was going on trip that I was going to question whether or not he brought someone home. Said he almost mentioned it to me before I left. Sure enough, that is what I did. I did not even know how to respond.
H said he was trying to work on friendship prior to text to see if we could start from there. WHAT?! But because of my text it has made him realize that things are probably too far gone to make M work. Thinks I am being too irrational and up and down.
I'm amazed that you were able to see anything positive from this conversation, it's a testament to your emotional strength!
Do you have proof that someone was there, another woman?
I would expect him to deny and deny and deny until you confront him with absolute proof. I had among other things phone records that showed that my H has been in OW's city when he said he was elsewhere - and it wasn't until I told him about it that he admitted to the A and started telling me about the details.
If you need to discuss something with him again, you can always put it off if you sense he is in a bad place. You could say you're not feeling like it's a good time and you can talk later.
Personally, I would have been suspicious about the early travel. I have previously checked on H's hotel reservation to make sure it was like he said...
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
