"There is hope as long there is love in your heart. I know that feelings of love fade esp. in light what the spouse is doing at the moment."

This is also what I struggle with. I love my wife and still want my marriage or a chance to work on it together and see where we go from there.

However, it's damn tough to fully move forward and let go, if I'm holding onto that love because it gives me hope. It sounds contradictory.

The longer I do (hold onto the love/hope) the more I question if I'm inflicting more pain onto myself but not fully moving on now.

That's the question I know only I can answer - how long is too long?

M-33
W-33
S-11, S-8
M-11, T-14
BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18
I moved out 5/23