Matt,
Intellectually, I know the physical contact means nothing. Emotionally, sure it's nice but I don't think it triggers any internal downward spiral. I certainly don't want her to feel comforted by me right now.

And, I agree that her initiated physical contact is similar to the recent enacted boundary. However, it's not one that's as easy to control like simply ignoring a phone call. Inevitably, it will happen again and I'm sure I may be in a situation where I am unable to avoid it. I just don't think it's a deal breaker. Yet, I can do better to avoid the situation. And admittedly, in the past, I might have lingered a bit to see if she would initiate the hug, etc.

Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15