Dude, you have to decide if you stand or end the stand. Sure it is fun to date and to hookup, but how is that making you any different than your W. I would not recommend hooking up at least a year post BD. Think about it, you hurt and you just need some to take the hurt. It might mask it a bit, but a hurt still remains.
And do not try to be a lighthouse, first concentrate on just being. Be the best dad in the world, play with the kids, get down and dirty with them. Play with them as if you are one of them.
And it is pretty twofaced to pretend to be a lighthouse and date around at the same time. Don't you think?
