Always interesting to see what happens when the pursuer stops pursuing!
I'm glad you were able to set some boundaries for yourself. Just because she seems sad now doesn't mean it won't roller coaster to anger or other emotions later. Some of what you said may have come off as controlling, but I think that overall those points will be lost.
Now make sure you don't backslide on some of these things you set. I believe the tests will come. Watch out.
