Not much to report. H is still barely speaking to me and staying out super late. He now seems to be back to full-on acting out like a teenager. I am sure that this is in response to me reminding him on Saturday that we are still married. I probably should not have done that because in his mind we are only in paper. Saturday he mentioned "that I don't own him". I have never told my H he could not do something and recently even told him he is free to make his own choices. I don't think he likes the consequences part though. This was in response to previously asking him to let me know if he was not coming home so I did not worry and could sleep and A accusations. Yes, I can see how in his current stage he would believe it is controlling. So I will not question that anymore. He is no longer mine to worry about. To prove point he came home at 1am last night. This morning, I did not ask anything about his day or evening. I was pleasant, but kept conversation short. He told me he changed work trip to leaving today instead of tomorrow. I told him to have a good trip and walked away.
I think this trip works in my advantage to do a better job of acting as if I have had a change of heart and decided to move on with or with out him. I leave for Dublin on Friday, so more time away would be good.
We have a wedding/weekend away we are both set to go on June 19. His side of the family. Any thoughts on whether I should pull out and stay home? The only loss is a plane ticket and I am fine if it is better for showing him life without me. I am leaning towards staying home. Thoughts? What should I say when I tell him?
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
