I did have T0's comment in the back of my mind about a WW having a feel for when the LBS is still attached. Honestly, I'm not sure how to accomplish this without being curt, definitely something I can continue to improve upon.
The only way is to truly become detached.
After you go down a path of spending months monitoring her reactions to your behavior, pining, demonstrating changes, and seeing her 'warm up'...only to realize you are being played the fool repeatedly be a kid in an adult's body trying to keep everyone on her side so she can avoid consequences and keep her options open...you will grow tired of it all.
I'd encourage you to find and read my first threads. If not from the very beginning maybe from 8/1 to 9/5. This covered the same time period for me (months 2-3 after BD) and it shows how she 'warmed up'. It also shows the outcome. Let's just say by October I was much more detached.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
