Wow, that is AWESOME! I’ve been extremely busy and haven’t been on the DB Forum much at all for a few days. Boy, I missed a lot.
Good for you. Take care and keep up the good work.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I'm not gonna lie, though. While it feels good, I'm also having some ambivalent thoughts. All I ever wanted was to save my marriage. Now it seems like things are moving so darn fast. I am so happy about these developments, but I'm also still extremely angry, hurt, and embarrassed by her actions. I'm sure this is normal.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
"Now it seems like things are moving so darn fast. I am so happy about these developments, but I'm also still extremely angry, hurt, and embarrassed by her actions. I'm sure this is normal."
Kramer, there's some content on this in DR. MWD says it's common and normal to feel this way when there is prospect of reconciling. She says all the hurt and resentful feelings start to surface and LBS can begin to feel they are making a big mistake. But actually, the feelings just need to be processed and dealt with. You may find it helpful to read up on what she says about this.
A day at a time and at a pace you are comfortable with okay? You have been through a lot and things will take a good while to improve. We'll all be here with you whilst you move forwards. Have you looked at the piecing section of this forum?? ((Kramer))
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
I'm also still extremely angry, hurt, and embarrassed by her actions. I'm sure this is normal.
YES
Did you read the links that I gave you a few posts back?
Yes I did. Very informative. Thanks.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
I've never posted on your thread but I have been following it ESP in the last month. It is so motivating to see someone reap the rewards and to see DB working live. I know the work is far from over for you but still, well done on the job so far. Keep listening to the vets.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
Kramer, I read through all of your posts and I just want you to know it has been an inspiration for me and my situation. I hope this comes across the right way but I'm glad to see you had some backslides and it still worked out, I get so angry with myself when I do or say something I KNOW I shouldn't do or say.
Best of luck my friend, I just said a prayer for you and your family
Me: 32 Her: 29 M: 5 T: 11 D2 ILYBINILWY: Jan 15 BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me) W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15 Papers served 6-3-15 Temporary Order 7-15-15 W Moved out 7-17-15
