I'm glad you had a great time at the condo. I don't think your h was scared about "burning the condo down". I think he genuinely enjoyed seeing the video and in his childish mind, that comment popped out. Don't take everything he says literally or to the bank. They tend to say things out of the blue that they normally wouldn't. Ignore his comments, but check the box that he did see the video and he did come back and reply to you on FB. That's a plus.
Now, let's focus put the focus back on you. What are your plans for the weekend?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Bea, Job, thanks for the comments and b-day wished.
Bea, I was thinking along the same lines – bee nice and validate.
Here is what I replied with “I totally agree, it does look scary on the video… But… Don’t worry, “my GF” was standing by with the garden hose ready… Not that it would be good for the condo either… But, there were just a few sparkles… smile emoticon
Job, you always have such a great insight! I kind of had the feeling that H was not too worried about the condo, just used this as an excuse to post. I also think that he a bit curious and even a little jealous. For him to comment on my post on FB is huge! It is not a private conversation, it is kind of public, for all his and my friends to see. By posting he also acknowledged that he checked the post about me. And I did “check the box”! It is almost like the advice of my DB coach of almost 2 years ago is finally working.
The plans for the weekend… I’m assuming that I’m going to my sister’s on Saturday, and I’m almost sure they are going to make another b-day dinner and celebration for me! On Sunday, I will have to move the loan again and do some other house chores. I also think I will need a break from all these partying, LOL.
Oh, and I think I forgot to mention that when I asked H to send me a company file so I could do my Invoice for a side project that I had. He replied that his computer would not allow him to send the file, there was something wrong. He asked me to send him the Invoice info and he would enter it in QB. To which I texted him “No worries” and followed up with the Invoice info. I thought that he kind of wanted to keep me away from the company business. But… I was wrong. I already mentioned that he sent the e-mail with the file, also asking me to send it back after I do my updates. I guess he is still OK with the joint business affairs…
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Things sound great in the BrightFuture camp! Love it.
Interesting that h is checking you out on fb. I know you were so hesitant about it for awhile, but it really is interesting to see the interaction.
Bright, you sound really good. I'm happy for that. I think it's great! I also know that it's a big ???? as to what they will do for holidays, bdays, etc...
But, I think that you hear from them mostly when they are least distracted by op. And it seem like he is still watching what's up w Bright. I bet he is wondering about your new GAL!
But, what's most important, is that you are really doing you, Bright! It sounds like you are really doing well. And I know it can be tough sometimes to really push through when you really don't want to. Good for you for putting one foot in front of the other! Keep it up! I love it!
Mighty, the Facebook idea came from my DB coach about 2 years ago. I was not on FB at that time and really didn’t have any desire to join. H was not on FB either, and I thought he would never be on it. He said that he would never join this social media cr@p. So, I kind of ignored that advice from DB coach.
Well, 2 years later, look who is on FB. I think he is there even more often than I am. From what I’ve heard…
So, yes, it was kind of interesting that he even replied to the post. I’m not sure if he realized that by commenting on the friend’s post made him visible on my timeline as well. I think he probably knows it now, because of my friends also commented on that post, hehe.
I’m sure my GAL is intriguing him. One of his complaints and reasons to break up with me was that I was not social enough and didn’t keep in touch with people.
I do have to push myself sometimes. I’m just not the one of these high energy people who thrive on the social interactions. I need my quiet time. But… You know what! I’ve notice that I’m actually enjoying all these outings, and having good time with my friends and family.
Speaking of that… Had a nice brunch today with my GF, my son, my sister and her family, and my BIL (H’s brother)! My son came with the buket of nice flowers for me. We all had a great time.
On another note, there is no card from H. I also didn’t get a card from his older brother’s and his wife. I always received a card from them on time. Maybe my comments about their daughter’s wedding and how my son was not invited reached, and that I was upset about it were conveyed to them. Or, maybe before they were not so sure about our situation. And maybe now, after meeting with H a few times, he told them that it is really over. Just a speculation. And an observation. Doesn’t really affect me that much.
I ate so much today… I hope tomorrow at work they will not have a cake for me... I think I celebrated my b-day enough by now, LOL. Need some quiet time…
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
