Yes, that is his defense for A weeks ago. Our marriage was only in paper in his mind. He said no one would ever blame him for having A. I wanted to say like no one would blame me for snooping right now, but I bit my tongue.
Yesterday, he said I know you think that I should have come to you first to tell you how bad it was for me before resorting to A. He started to say that I would not of done anything, but I stopped him and outlined exactly what I would have done and told him he should not assume.
I have finally realized that I truly need to let my H go in order to get him back. It is the only way for him to sort himself out. I have still been holding on too tight. I guess because I have been worried by what he might find. But in his current state he is not suitable for marriage. More importantly, it is keeping me from fully working on myself. I am not using my gift of time wisely.
Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
