Your wife needs to grow up on her own. If she feels that she's in a rut, she needs to figure out on her own how to get out of it. You rescued her many times pre-crisis, now she needs to grow up and face those ruts and find a way out of them.
Make suggestions and leave the door open as to whether she wants to try new things. However, don't push her to join in. She needs to learn to make decisions on her own and become independent.
Don't become her rescuer...you've already been there, done that. She needs to become an equal partner to you. Always remember, you can't fix her because you didn't break her. She's the only one that can fix herself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
