I understand, it's the hardest part to let go. Think of it this way. If she is the love of your life, she will be there down the road. And maybe this was all needed to make things right, like pigpen said. If you believe in a higher power, he has a plan in mind, and maybe this was it.
Hello Roid,
How are you today? Thanks for posting in my thread last night, I did reply there.
I really have to agree with your quote above, and Sandi just posted a good point, too.
Roid, I think it may be even a little harder (it's always tough) given the fact that you have not only been her H but "caregiver" as well, since she has RA. I replied last night that we walk a tight rope trying to care for our chronically ill spouse. No matter how well intentioned we are, if our Ws perceive it as being smothering then that is their reality. As you know, Roid, my W has MS. I had no idea she felt "smothered" until after she filed for D last October.
By detaching, keeping a PMA and with the support of all of the loving DB'ers on this forum, I truly can see things thru my W's eyes now. I have faith that my W will see I now understand and the "Old Bob" is gone. The Bob she fell in love with is back!
Does this make any sense? I hope it helps and please hang in there.
Here's a Bible verse I came across the other day I'd like to share with you:
“But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength” (2 Timothy 4:17).
Take care -
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
