Great point Toots. I believe that the difference is that "nice guys" do have LOTS of expectations and covert contracts. Then they get resentful when their unvoiced needs aren't met.

I feel that this encourages the communication of your desires, but cautions against allowing those to transform to expectations. And the DB concepts of not keeping a score card, taking one to tango, and finding your own happiness all seemed reflective.

Glad you enjoyed it. I am totally fascinated by the difference between expectations and desires, between settling and accepting reality, between allowing yourself to be mistreated versus loving your partner for who they are. And this video gave me a lot of food for thought.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15