Friends you are so kind! Thank you for the words of wisdom.
stacey9 you are so right about the self-esteem issues. Why else would you try to steal someone's spouse?
Karma12 indeed we have to keep plugging away and being happy with our lives! And maybe someday that Mr Right will cross our paths I look forward to hearing about your meeting with your H. I think I read that he is not doing well and has been ill? Hope nothing serious!
Wonka thanks for stopping in! I know exactly the feeling you described when you saw the OW lookalike. Ugh. That's the feeling I want to get rid of. I don't want to care! Luckily I don't see the OW in the workplace, she was my H's coworker. I just see her around town sometimes and popping up on social media since we have friends in common. But it bites...
Zues126 thanks for the words of wisdom! I love everything you said. Very wise. True that a good, happy, secure person would not try to steal a spouse. Maybe someone who was fundamentally a good person could make some mistakes, but in the end it shows it isn't about me, it is about her. It burns that my exH still can't see that she used him and is a crappy person, but who cares what that idiot thinks anyway. I'm looking out for that 1% now
Maybell you are amazing! You hit the nail right on the head. Some part of me does yearn for that big scene beating the crap out of her or telling everyone she is a ho-bag. But I know in the end it will just make me look bad.. and feel dumb. That's one reason I hate the feeling of anger, because I don't want to risk that scene if I am ever face to face with her.
PigPen Wow, what a beautiful message. Hopefully I can take your words to heart and also embrace the fact that I am happier now. I think the dual practice of realizing I am better off - counting my blessings if you will - and realizing that H and OW are acting out of insecurity might help me to get over my anger. Thank you again for your kind and wise words.
Thanks to all of you. I really appreciate these messages of advice. I will read them again and again when I am feeling angry about this.
I look forward to hearing about your meeting with your H. I think I read that he is not doing well and has been ill? Hope nothing serious!
