I think it takes being able to let go of what we think we can control. I'm trying to put myself in her shoes. What would I feel like if I were her. We just have to know that we can't control the spouses feelings, and we can barely control our own right now. But still it's never really giving up you can't be happy, it's just being patient to see if the spouse can think the same way. Keep up the work though, got to remember we will be better after all of this, if we choose to be.
I've definitely let go of the things I cant control. W is going to do what she's going to do. I can accept that now.
But I don't know how I will be able to ultimately let go of thinking of her as the love of my life.
