My WAW story part IV

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I'm glad you posted all of this Roid, I think we all battle with it. This is the THIRD time my W has left me, twice when we were dating and now only two years into our marriage. All of my friends have said, "it's time to face the music."

But I'm with you. I remember just how much fun we had together, how many laughs, how many amazing conversations, and shared moments. I remember all of them. I also know the challenges, and see them for what they are - real world issues that can be dealt with. Like Zues says, we both lacked the necessary skills to communicate our needs. It wasn't a spiritual problem or a lack of love, or anything else, it was a skill issue.

All you can do is keep the faith until it no longer serves you. I believe that our W's are still unsure as well or they would have up and filed for D and just steam rolled ahead. Four months after leaving mine said she still wasn't sure. That's after moving to a new city, getting a new apartment, ditching her ring, changing her FB status, and using her maiden name! Either she's just messing with me and I'm a giant sucker (could be), or she still has some doubt too.

I love her, and am still in love with her. I recognize and take ownership of 100% of my 50% of our problems. If that still doesn't save us, then I'm going to have to make different decisions and will at that time.

Someone else posted something that resonated with me as well, "What if right now this is just what your M needed, it needed to be shaken to its core since the patterns you were using weren't working. What if this is EXACTLY what was necessary to actually save your M."

May be.

Keep up the good work.