Hi, Wet -- I still pray for you and your wife everyday, and I thought I would just let you know that I am still doing that. I still believe that if you turn your face to God and let her go, God will be able to do his work on her and your marriage will be restored. It will take a long time, but that's okay, during that time you have your own transformation to undertake. And you are doing that a lot, and you should feel proud of that...
With love and strength for you and for your wife,
Gerda
Gerda, what a blessing you are! Thank you for remembering my W and I in your prayers. It is kinda funny that you bring up the process of letting my W go taking a long time. You know, I pray that I be able to hear and listen to God's voice in my choices. And when last week W brought her om to s13's baseball game, I was angry. And I started thinking,
"ok Lord, is this the sign that I am waiting for, that now is the time to move forward with the divorce?"
But yes, a couple of items caught my attention after this. First, I like reading old Christian sermons and I was reading something from Huldrych Zwingli who was preaching on Matthew 10:22 ("Whoever is steadfast until the end will be saved.")
He brought up so many good points that it helped me to see more clearly that I just need to be a bit more patient starting with today. Here is an example of something Pastor Zwingli taught - "No virtue is a virtue if it is not executed with steadfastness." It drove home the point that I need to keep standing for my marriage and my family for now.
Then I also read an article on the 7 ways to save your marriage if your spouse has left you, in the Christian Post. The message was along the same lines as taught here - work on yourself, leave your spouse alone, and be patient. The writer's main point was to stay "just a little longer." And that if you stay a little longer and do the right things in working on your life, that there can be success. So Gerda, you are in good company in advising me to be patient.
Thank you also for sharing the story of one of your friends who helped you in your battle with cancer six months ago. There is comfort in knowing other people are going thru this too, and that I am not alone.
Finally, you also gave me some other advice that I am going to think more about. I will try and post my thoughts on the rest of your post later. Thank you, and God bless you, your health and Marriage.
