Oh Gwen - it took me forever - but thanks. I really like where I am now - it absolutely wasn't what I would have chosen for my life, and certainly wasn't what I wanted, but now I am here, all I can say is what a little person I was.
I would stress that I am sometimes lonely, sometimes miss what I had and took for granted, and have all the normal stresses, aches and pains etc. But I am good in myself.
The idea of circle of concern and circle of influence helps - if we focus on what we can do something about, actually we find there is more and more we can influence, and so it expands. We can't alter what our former spouses are doing. That is their journey, and it is a hard one too. As hard in its own way as ours is.
it s difficult to grasp that when you are in emotional pain and see the person responsible living on the high hog, apparently.
