Zephyr, the simpler the grounding exercise the better. My favorite actually is just naming what I see around me. I do it aloud when I can, but frequently just in my head. Just make sure not to add any judging tags to it. So like yesterday when I caught myself babbling because I was nervous that I was going to screw up the day, AND there was no duct tape at the gift shop, I quickly posted on here and then started saying in my head, "blue shirt, brown pants. Pink car, 4 wheels, white sign, pink shirt" Just the facts no opinions. It got me back in the moment and then I was able use the techniques that we've learned on here.
Let me know how it works for you.
Also, don't sweat not posting as much as Bob. We all know Bob is an amazing person that has that talent to reach so many people. You and I try to do it on a smaller level, as I too can only post on 5-6 a day if I'm lucky.
You change a mindset by starting each day with the intent to do so and try your hardest all day. If you slip up, acknowledge it and then move on. You have seen that we have all slipped up. You HAVE learned a lot on here and in your sitch, it's just hard to see your own personal growth.
I wish you a happy, grounded day.
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