We are over, now what?

[Painter]

People do the craziest things. Never thought my H of 14 years would cheat on me, hire an attorney to try and keep me out of the house, etc. Blew me away, it did. Still not sure if this is someone I want to live with...

But - I don't think our entire relationship was a lie. We had trouble for a long time and he wouldn't talk about it, so it got worse and worse. Eventually, he chose a really bad way out. Some people are good people but choose poor solutions when they are challenged. They don't have the tools or training to do differently, I guess.