Maybell - I'll play my old tape again for you, but hopefully you see your Nice Girl tendencies playing out at work, where you really focus on what makes you feel rejected and you avoid rocking the boat, for fear of more rejection. You had a glowing review and a promise in writing for a raise, but you frame the whole thing as a dig by your boss followed by a risky demand.
I'm not saying you should change your behavior right now as I'm sure it feels very risky to you. But sometimes, just be aware of our patterns is a big step forward, even when we don't change them. I'll just say that even if you got fired over this (unlikely, but far-reaching, I agree), you would likely reduce your chances of being in the wrong work environment in the long run. To me, NMMNG is about finding happiness through honesty, and sometimes happiness is more than one step away.
Regarding your H, whom you know I despise at least as much as you do, I also thought of him in my last update about the genes of infidelity, based on a recent NYT article. It reminded me of a guy who said "Well, a couple of one night stands" after denying infidelity repeatedly.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
