What can I say...mind blown. I would truly encourage everyone to check it out.

I hear it all the time- your WAS was a fool, they had problems, you'll find someone that will appreciate how great you are, etc. And while it's great that we're all doing our best on these forums, there's more to DBing than getting over a break-up, and standing by your M doesn't automatically make you the spouse only a fool would leave. To be honest, the fact that we're here means that overall we started out a bit worse at marriage than average. Not everyone, but as a whole. So we have a LOT of work to do. Do we stop when the pain stops? When our WAS does something so awful we can point the finger at them? Or do we stay humble, and realize that it's a lifelong journey to make ourselves worthy spouses?

I truly desire a healthy marriage. But I don't expect it (watch the video and that will make sense). I can fool the forums, but that won't help me when my next partner leaves me or my next marriage stinks. So I am being real and telling all of you that I have a lot more to learn. This video was truly the biggest breakthrough I've had this year. I challenge all of you to watch it, and more importantly I challenge all of you to keep working on the person in the mirror.

Last edited by Cristy; 06/17/15 09:09 PM. Reason: per forum agreement, do not mention other videos/authors
Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15