Gwen my friend, your daughters sound wonderfully mature and talented young ladies. This is a testament to you and you should be really proud of yourself.
Your daughters performance sound amazing and emotional; having an artistic ability to channel ones emotions into is a gift and she sounds like she portrayed her inner thoughts very powerfully. I would have been sniffing away like you, especially as you were not expecting it -
It will take time to detangle yourself from your identity as a wife and couple with your h, its a long process to "fall out of love" - we may think that they seemed to have achieved it so quickly by their current actions, but deep down, that love is still there, they have just lost it and for those of us who choose to stand for our m, we hope that its a temporary situation and they will find it again before too much hurt and damage has been caused.
You are handling this all so well Gwen - having your h seemingly fall off the earth is hard, I really understand how you feel - its like "seriously, I spent all those years with this guy and seemingly overnight I no longer mean anything to him, how is this possible" - it goes to show you that this crisis that they enter is real, it has to be as its the only logical explanation.
You have taken one of the most stressful events to happen to a person and owned it, you move forward with such courage and strength and do it so quietly and with such grace - I am in awe of you. I tend to bounce around all over the place !
Keep going Gwen, you will make lots of new and happy memories to add to those you already have in the coming yrs
