My big brother just gave me more sage advice. stop being afraid and trying to a 'square peg in a round hole". he suspects that my fear of losing my GF and not really being ok in my own skin before getting into a Rel, caused GF to see qualities she did not want. When I stop carrying around the fear and learn to be to with myself, things will work much better.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14