I have never agreed with Cadet more than now! I hope you follow his advice.
Allow yourself time to grieve (you need that) and start working on anything you feel can make you a better person.
I'd like to pass this verse on to you:
“But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength” (2 Timothy 4:17).
I wish you well.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15