running around like a chicken without a head

[Sis]

I am new to the forum but not new to MLC. My BD was a year ago although I feel he's been in crisis for much longer than that. I understand and feel your pain but he is no where near ready to know what he wants. My husband said the same thing 3 months after he left but said it was too hard to get rid of OW. He filed for divorce immediately after I contacted OW and tried to get rid of her for him! Never works. He withdrew the divorce after 5 months once I pulled back and let him have his time with her. He seems to be making strides and is reconnecting with family, children and me ( the last one). OW seems to be out of the picture but because it was mainly an online EA I'm not 100% sure it's over so my expectation is zero at this point. I do see changes in him and will continue to be strong, loving and patient. It's all you can do, nothing I did to try and changed the situation worked and in fact may have made it worse.

Stay strong