Touch and Go?

[Sis]

I mailed an anniversary card to my husband, spent 20 minutes looking for the 'perfect' card. There should be a section for midlife crisis spouses! Our middle D (27) is visiting him in DC for the weekend and I am happy about that. He seems to enjoy his time with the girls amd me, it's just that the visits are far and few. He was reaching out every 3 days or so for the last few weeks but again has pulled back. My responses have been kind and without pressure, no R talks at all. I really don't know the status of his relationship with OW but since she lives 2400 miles away I know it's an EA at this point since has not taken a trip there in 4 months. Always confusing but I do feel stronger everyday. Moments of pain but not too deep and not for very long. Rainy day here, just needed to vent