It is disappointing how "the world" views D and Rs. Early on, before I even got to DB land, I googled how to detach. It *****ed me off that half of the pages redirected at Ss who are thinking of leaving the R - "so to make it easier to BD, detach first". A sorry state of affairs.
Hey Zues,
I know exactly what Pyrite means! It seems like there is more help out there for people who want to quit on their M than for the LBS'.
Z, this is solid gold: "Is the answer to truly not to have desires, to not have your needs met, to accept a mediocre marriage? Where's the balance? For some this may seem a disinteresting thought problem and go to the next thread, but for me this is at the center of my M's breakdown. AND IF I DON'T GROW MY SECOND MARRIAGE WOULD BE A REPEAT. I don't want that for me, or for any of you."
A lot of food for thought! We all are human and have desires. Finding the balance is tough. I think a big part of what goes "wrong" in cases like ours is that one or maybe even both of the partners feel like they can't express their true feelings. Why? There are as many different reasons as there are marriages, I suppose.
Thank you .... I will watch it as soon as I can!
Hang in there, my friend. You offer encouraement to so many on our forum. I love you like a brother!
Bob
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Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
