You sound so different then a few months ago. It's nice to see that you are encouraged to think about yourself and let your life improve.
You are reaching some detachment and it will help you to see other things around you that you were blind for.
You WW sounds like she still holds a lot of resentment and that is a no winning ticket right now. Best, is that you take this time and improve yourself and your life during the this time.
Regarding the kids, I understand the arrangement is done this way because you do not live very close, but if there is any way you can make a point that you want to be a present parent in their lives, I would.
My kids are suffering a lot because their dad does not care much. So, if you care, then your WW needs to understand and respect that, because it is important for the kids. Even if it is a hassle for her, she feels the inconvenience because of her choices, then be it.
It is not a hateful remark, the way I see it, it's just the consequences of a separation, and that is on her. If she really love her kids, then she will want them to have the father presence there.
Is there any way you can go to were they are sometimes, for a lunch or dinner, a movie? Is this every other weekend determined by the court? Because if it is not, then she needs to bend sometimes. You are just accommodating her life, and you do not need to make it any easy for her at all.
You can respect her decision but you can make your point of being a father.
That's good that you let go on that email. She sounds like she is trying to poke you with a short stick. She is probably waiting some reaction from you. Let her be, you are a different person now.
Be good for yourself OD, always let go the anger, remember that anger will give you lots of wrinkles and you will not look too good. So don't ever be angry and delay the wrinkles.
You are doing great, keep yourself steady and in the right path.
