Oh Geez. STBX called 6 more times and texted me threatening to call the police. I felt, at this point, I needed to answer a call to make sure she understood my stance.

So I called STBX back. She told me she had driven by my house and was flipping out about the kids. I remained calm and told her the kids were fine. They were with their father. I talked about how our time with the kids is sacred. Now that the time is split, it's even more sacred. I said I miss the kids a bunch, but out of respect to her, I don't want to interrupt her time with the kids. I mentioned that she doesn't need to check on the kids every morning.

She said that its my choice to not talk with the kids when she has them. She said that the kids want to talk with me when she has them and she assumed the reverse was true. She said that the kids need to talk with their father. I responded by saying that there are no winners in this situation.

STBX then threatened me that if I continue to "use the kids as a weapon," I will have even less time with them from a custody standpoint.

She said that this was just me doing more of the same. That I did this all of our MR. STBX said that we were not good together and she wasn't happy for a very long time. I just listened and validated where applicable.

I restated my initial point and moved toward ending the call by saying I would see her on Monday morning.

I obviously didn't want to get into this conversation but it was inevitable and I felt the sooner the better.

I could really use some advice from some vets who have been in this sitch with young kids. It don't think it will go away if I ignore it. How did you handle the other parent's request to check in on the kids during your time with the kids?

Last edited by Defacto; 05/30/15 03:00 PM.
Me:35 W:30
D:4 S:1
Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA
In House Separation: 01/14/15
W moves out: 04/05/15
I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15
W serves D papers: 06/19/15
Mediation: 09/16/15
D final: 12/01/15