Gogofo - I get the premise. However, I am NOT divorced (the process in in place) but I'm not trying to act like we're done and our marriage is over.

It's a hard balance. Definitely not pursuing, not initiating, going dark, getting a life, PMA, looking good, etc.

But don't want to be cold and FU attitude either.

M-33
W-33
S-11, S-8
M-11, T-14
BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18
I moved out 5/23