Thanks Mahhhty, I think you're right. I will continue to tweak it and practice saying it LOL. However, I do think once I mention the A, it's inevitable that STBX will get defensive.
STBX did send a flurry of D motivated financial texts this morning (send me latest copies of accounts, copy of deed to house). She also called but I didn't answer it. I waited 15 minutes and replied with "Sure, no problem."
Mind reading, but it seems like my new stance may have renewed her intent for D. She hadn't mentioned anything about it for a couple of weeks. Either way, I needed to set these boundaries moving forward, regardless of the outcome.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
