Just Fishin'

[mahhhty]

I read and tried to respond to a lot of people last night and this AM. I feel like there is a whole new crowd in here, and over the weekend I really lost touch with other people's situations.

In doing so, I realized that I have not revisited my plan, goals or aspirations since 12/10/2015. So I copied the old ones and modified them.

Work on me:
My goal is to be happier, healthier, and to be a better Father, Son, & Friend.

Continue to
-re-identify with myself, becoming more self-confident & self-reliant
-be more verbally supportive of her, STFU & listen
-be present (live in the moment, with no distractions when people are around)
-be happier (GAL, live a life of no compromises, live my life, be a person only a fool would leave)
-be mindful that everything is not black and white (I’m not always right, I don’t always know what is best, & I need to continue to be aware to learn from others & life)
-be more grateful, aware & appreciative
-be laid back, compassionate & understanding
-be attractive each and everyday
-work out
-travel less for day job -> then leave day job -> work for myself
-make the bed daily!

What I’d like to see from her:
-to be warm & pleasant towards me
-to pursue & approach me
-to initiate relationship talks
-to give compliments, no matter how big or small
-to show remorse
-for her to kiss me

Find Strength & Inspiration in:
-GAL’ing
-Sandi’s Rules
-Serenity Prayer
-"Be the change you wish to see in the world" - Gandhi
-"The finest steel has to go through the hottest fire." - Nixon
-With time comes clarity
-"Act as if by showing that you will be happy regardless of S's choice. You show strength by finding some new friends/activities aside from spouse. Actions speak louder than words." - Someone in the forum, much smarter than me
“I will tell you what Coach did to win me back - after I left our home and filed for D. He stopped doing all the other things that got me to the point of walking out of the door. He stopped trying to arrange my reactions. He stopped trying to control what I would think or do. He stopped telling me how I should feel. He stopped telling me what would happen if... He dropped the rope and said WITH HIS ACTIONS: "Greek, I can see that you are hell bent on leaving for reasons that you have made abundantly clear to me. Some of those reasons have merit and I will deal with them for my own sake. But I can't keep you here and I won't try. The action I will take is to work on areas in my life that have contributed to the difficulties in our R and other R in my life; I will begin to take care of myself in a way I have neglected for some time now (GAL); I will handle protect myself against the legal action you took against our M; I will conduct myself with strength and honor." This was and is totally attractive! It's strong. It's confident. It's respectful - both of me and of Coach. It's not about 'doing nothing.' It's about doing what works - putting the ACTION in the right place. -Greek”