If I move to where he is going it's about a 2 hour drive from where we are now. My son would definately stay here because of his job and his girlfriend. My daughter I don't know. She needs to get out on her own and live her life. As of right now, she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, all she does is play video games and watch videos and movies on her computer all day and night. She does not contribute financially and rarely helps around the house. For my own sanity and physical well being she needs to not live with me and if she does stay with me things have to change drastically. My H has already said he will not live with her again. My kids and my family were a huge reason as to why my H left. I enabled all of them, always doing everything for everyone. Even my illness didn't put a stop to it. I get that I have to cut the umbilical cord, for them and for me. My H said he has been telling me for years to do this because he saw I was suffering. I wouldn't listen. I actually did listen, but didn't know what to do about it. It seemed like no one was willing to help me. I was working 50 hours a week in a very physically demanding job, looking after all of the house and chores, battling my illness taking up to 17 pills a day, then low dose chemo for a few months. I didn't have the energy to fight with anyone, including my kids and family. These next few months are do or die time for my daughter. She needs to get off her ass and do something.
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
