The new normal

[Pyrite]

The same is true of my W. She absolutely, 100% cannot, does not and will not see that ending the M was/is anything other than the best solution AND in the best interests of the kids.

She refused, argued, screamed at me, her parents, etc that this was the case. It is better to have 2 separated and happy parents than grow up in an environment with an unhealthy M at the core. N one ever suggested otherwise. We all pointed out that we owe it to the children to try and "fix" our M. This went in one ear and out the other. She never heard this, she never responded to this.

This is/was evidence that it was NOT an option. She did reveal that she did not even want to try. So in her mind this decision was already made and D had already happened. So it is reasonable to her that she doesn't include this as a factor at all. Beside that she has exhibited a level of selfishness in the past few months that I have never before witnessed in ANYONE.

She MAY have been a good mum once. She MAY think she is now. BUT there is no one who knows us both (including MIL) that would agree. She surely won't see a red flag, not on her turf anyway.