Maybell XXXV: Almost There

[Zues126]

I agree with focusing on the positive. I'm not a big fan of minimizing the negative. For me, I lost a woman- but a woman that was my partner to serve and share through our lifetime. I lost the ability to model marriage to my kids, and instead will have to accept that them and my grandkids will be more likely to divorce and have broken families and broken relationships. I could go on, but I don't believe in D and can't get on board treating it like somehow it's a good thing I'd recommend to a friend. Because if my STBX told me she wanted to get D to accomplish the positives, I would argue that we could do that without dismantling a family.

However- we didn't get a choice, so the fact that we choose to use this crisis as a catalyst for positive change in our lives is awesome. And there is no question that our lives may end up more fulfilling in many ways. I don't think this is because of the divorce. I think this is because of YOU. And it's great.

So I say, yeah, titanic loss, but you ran your ship and are being rewarded for your choices with many blessings. Oh and this-

We watched a couple of short shows, played Connect Four, did laundry, played chess, and read Fellowship of the Ring on the couch, all before bedtime.

This sounds like a night to remember. And you have those nights routinely. I know I feel that way with my kids too. I'm blown away with what we have. Maybe I'm more engaged. Maybe I just appreciate it more. Either way it's all good.