The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[DFE]

NEED HELP!

I was doing better or so I thought. Maybe it was because we were talking to each other and my stupid brain started getting mixed signals. What's a mixed signal when you are divorced. I sometimes wonder if I am being emotionally abused and that's why I am so weak when it comes to him. I have been reading another posters sitch and I see myself in it. I am his doormat.

Last week I was going out of town. He text me to see if he could stay with the kids since he was going "away" at the end of the week. STAY in my house with them. I said let's talk when we see each other. Well he blew up. He text me saying he wasn't going to put up with my BS for long and that I was taking away his right. He said why do I care if he spends time with them while I am gone. He then called me and it escalated. I told him several times to let it go until we met later that day so that we could discuss it. He kept saying what's there to discuss its either yes or no. I was talking over him and he told me to shut up and I hung up.

He then text me. I told him that I wouldn't allow him to speak to me that way. I said have a conversation about personal and business (we work together) that is long overdue. He responded saying there is NOTHING personal about us. I left for my trip and he sent me a long email resigning and telling me that we are no D and that I can't control where he goes and what he does.

I wanted to talk to him for several reasons. One he was going away and I think he was meeting someone. I told him from the beginning if we are to be friends and I find out you are seeing someone the friendship is done. Secondly I was going to tell him that I didn't think it was appropriate he stay at my house while I am out of town.

We haven't spoke in over 10 days. The first week I was super low and couldn't function. I am starting to snap out of it. We are D now. How can he still mess with my head like this???? He gives me anxiety like nobody else. He always does this to me. We fight then I get an email like the one I got the other day. It shuts me up and ruins my mood. He has been cake eating for too long. Any advice would be helpful. I don't know what's wrong with me. I am in counseling and trying to work on ME.