Tonight S9 said he was glad his dad left because there were less dishes to clean since he was gone. I was floored and said, "Really?" And he said, "Well, just for that." But he said it so very cheerfully... And something about it all got into my head that he gets a lot of this and that in some way he actually is kind of glad, because the three kids and I are so much closer without their dad around. I'm a lot more open with them, and they're quick to tell me stuff about their lives. D12 was making dinner for us when I got home from work AND had the kitchen cleaned up. We sat outside to eat and it was simple. We cleaned up together and it was still early. We watched a couple of short shows, played Connect Four, did laundry, played chess, and read Fellowship of the Ring on the couch, all before bedtime.
I was feeling hurt and sad because the nice thing he did for me yesterday reminded me of the good quality of our marriage. But then I had this awesome evening, made possible by his absence. LOTS of great things on tap for this weekend, and the hope for exactly the kind of home I've always wanted by the end of the summer.
It's like what PigPen said on Lisa's thread. In the negative column, I lost a guy. But oh, my, the positive side is huge. I would not have guessed it could be like this two years ago. I suppose I'm a slow learner.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
