Good to read your update. I was thinking about you today when analyzing my sitch.
I was thinking about how difficult it must be for you, not really knowing what is in your H's head, not knowing that there is an OW, not having those hard and horrible facts. I was also thinking about how nice that is, not to have those "facts" popping into your head all the time - visions of them kissing or texts between them that you discovered and read. I suppose either way is difficult. But I do feel for you, your situation is rather unresolved and mysterious and it would drive me crazy.
But it is so admirable how you have taken this time to look within yourself and try to improve things you found lacking. You seem like such a great person. You should be very proud of yourself.
Whatever the reasons your H chose to leave, he is a fool. And whatever happens in the future you deserve the ultimate happiness.
I'm around that one year anniversary too and it's funny how things have changed yet remain the same. Still unresolved and uncertain but at least the horrible heartache has mostly passed. I'm glad that we could all be buddies through this process.
